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Can’t adopt but want to help the least of these?

16 Oct

Good morning, Friends! I hope you are enjoying your day. I have some things I need to share with EVERYONE IN THE WHOLE UNIVERSE.

Last night I listened to a talk given by Lindsy Wallace through the Influence Network. The class was on caring for orphans outside of adoption. So, it was basically about how to follow God’s command to care for orphans when you are in a place where you don’t feel like you can adopt. I’m sure anyone who knows me knows that I consider pre-born children who are unwanted by their parents to be orphans just like older children. Many of the verses Lindsy referenced on caring for orphans are ones that I use to understand why we must defend the pre-born (loving your neighbor, caring for orphans, caring for the least of these) and I feel like I can sense something being built, something about to come full-circle for me.

Lindsy’s talk was so helpful and I would encourage everyone to check it out because it will be available in the Influence Network shop at some point for only $10. But, in case you don’t check it out, I’ll share some things I learned from her.

First of all, I really agreed with her on basically everything she said. I think we would “get” each other. So many people have this either/or mentality about the sanctity of human life and, really, we need to have an all-encompassing, holistic approach. When you have the worldview that Jesus loves and cares for every single person, you realize it doesn’t matter if they are pre-born, older, American or African. We should be defending life AND caring for children in orphanages (group homes). We should be helping children at home AND abroad.

Lindsy also pointed out that orphans do not exist in a vacuum. Something happens in a child’s family that leads to them becoming an orphan. If we can begin to look at supporting families and specifically moms, (crisis pregnancy centers do this well for pre-born children) we can help to keep children from becoming orphans in the first place.

She opened my eyes to some issues I had no idea about. Did you know that there are ministries to help refugees all over the US? I had no idea that there was a need to help refugees- or even that there were refugees- in Oklahoma City! For information on that, check out The Spero Project or just Google “refugee ministry” in your local area.

Another thing I noted was that you can become a mentor to an older child in foster care who is getting close to aging out of the system. Often, when these kids turn 18, they are sent out on their own and they literally have no one in life. You could become a friend to them and give them somewhere to go on Thanksgiving! (Edited to add: Each state offers its own services and I suggest searching online or calling your own state’s offices. In Oklahoma, you can follow this link to go to the volunteer page of Oklahoma DHS.)

My favorite thing I learned from Lindsy was that there are actually programs where you can sponsor families just like you can sponsor individual kids. There are moms who want to parent their children but they don’t have the resources they need. We can help them. Have you heard about microfinancing? It’s a loan program to help vulnerable families get on their feet. While we are on the subject of moms who want to keep their kids, awhile back I learned about adoption ethics. I think it’s an important issue for everyone to think about. I’m not telling you what to think, I’m just saying everyone should be aware.

Lindsy suggested two books: “Orphan Justice” and “Orphanology.”

Orphan Sunday is the first Sunday of November. Go here for resources on that.

Fellow bloggers: Look into blogger programs with Worldhelp, Compassion or Lifesong  to help raise awareness in your circle of influence.

I know that a lot of times we aren’t even aware of the needs around us. And sometimes when we are, it just seems so overwhelming and we don’t know what we can do. I hope you will look into some of the links here.

Everyone can do something. And Christians are commanded to. 

The last thing I want to say on this topic is that we all need to be praying for orphans and their families. We need to be asking God to show us and help us to do our part. And the devil isn’t going to like it so we better cover it all in prayer.


Why I haven’t said squat about Gosnell

15 May

A few people have been wondering why I haven’t been raging commenting on the Kermit Gosnell trial. I would’ve if the media had continued to ignore it as per their original plan. But, we hollered enough that they had to cover it. So, what is there for me to say about it?

Get this: If you think what Kermit Gosnell was convicted of murder for is actually murder, then there’s no logical way for you to think that abortion isn’t murder. If you know that abortion is murder and you are fine with it, then I have nothing to say. I probably should but I have only so much energy.

Gosnell was snipping the backs of the necks of babies born alive during an abortion. And he got in trouble for it. I don’t really get it. The lady goes in there to have her baby killed. Which is fine with America. The baby comes out and it’s not all the way dead so they finish the job after it is all the way out. This is not fine with America? It’s the same thing, people.

I also want everyone to think about when YOU believe a baby has been born. I’m not saying go Google the definition. Use your brain and decide. Is it when the whole head is out? The top half of the body? The whole body? What if it’s a breech birth and the feet come out first? When the umbilical cord is cut? Once he or she has had the mucus suctioned out of his or her nostrils? Would it have been okay with you if the baby was just crowning and Gosnell stabbed it in the top of the head rather than snipping its neck? How about if it was in the birth canal and he stabbed it in there? How do you think abortions are performed? Where is the dividing line between murdering a baby and emptying/discarding uterine contents? Don’t you think every person could feasibly have a different idea of when that is?

Please, please, please stop trying to be “nice” by refusing to condemn abortion because you know someone who had one. Please stop blindly assuming the position that your political party tells you to. Please stop being ignorant of the human body and believing that an unborn baby is a female reproductive organ. Please, just use your brain and think about this. You either think it’s wrong to murder people or you don’t. Own that.

Right Unchained

23 Apr

Last night we watched “Django Unchained.” If you haven’t seen it, I won’t spoil it but basically it’s about a slave who is bought by a bounty hunter to help him with his job. The bounty hunter and Django formulate a scheme to rescue Django’s enslaved wife. So, throughout the movie, you see slaves being mistreated (okay, they are being mistreated just by being enslaved, no matter how “nice” their master was to them. But I didn’t know how else to put it.) and it made me feel so angry and sad for them because even though it’s a movie, that stuff did really happen. And Spencer and I are sitting there feeling very uncomfortable after a scene where dogs are released to rip to shreds a runaway slave.

You feel like you need to say something in a moment like that. I don’t know why. I avert my eyes because it’s just so sickening and I can feel Spencer’s eyes on me. I don’t know why. You feel the need to acknowledge how wrong it is. I don’t know why. Just so everyone knows that you find it just horrendous? Isn’t that so obvious that we shouldn’t have to make eye contact or say anything at all? I don’t know. So I just didn’t look at him. But I still felt the urge. And I don’t know why.

But what I kept thinking in those moments is how every time us modern day white folks watch or read about slavery, we like to think we would’ve done something about it.  We would’ve done something. But, the reality is, most of us wouldn’t have. Let that sink in and really think about it. Imagine you lived in the south back then. Imagine about 1 in 3 of your friends owned slaves or were related to someone who did. Imagine that some of your friends said that they would never own a slave themselves but that they didn’t mind if others did. And imagine your government said slavery was totally cool. What would you do? Not look when the slaves were being whipped? Encourage people not to whip their slaves and make sure they were fed? Maybe pray about it? But most of us wouldn’t DO anything. For one thing, we wouldn’t know what we could do and for another, we would be afraid people would get mad at us if we vocalized our feelings about how wrong slavery is. So, yeah, we would preoccupy ourselves with other evils of our age and turn a blind eye to the biggest one happening right in our backyards. And when we were old and slavery had been abolished our grandkids might ask us if we helped fight against slavery with hope in their voices. And we would be ASHAMED of ourselves when we said “Well, I never owned a slave.” Or, “Well, I wrote a letter to the local slave owners and asked them not to whip their slaves.” Or, “Our church prayed about it one Sunday every year.” And we should be ashamed. And we should cry out for forgiveness. If we lived back then.

So, I think you know where I’m going with this one. When our grandkids are watching a movie about abortion and they are seeing how babies are LITERALLY RIPPED LIMB FROM LIMB or POISONED WITH SALINE or CUT OFF FROM THE UMBILICAL CORD which obviously causes them to die from a lack of nutrition and oxygen, they are going to be horrified. And they are going to ask us what we did to help the defenseless. And we are going to give a real answer that says we tried everything we could or we are going to avoid eye contact as we tell them that we voted pro-life or that we participated in Sanctity of Life Sunday at our church. I’m dead stinkin’ serious, friends. Maybe you’ll say, “Well, I was too busy working on human trafficking.” Human trafficking is horrible. I know it. But here’s why I don’t think we can sacrifice abortion for trafficking: Mainly because trafficking is illegal and abortion is not. Yes, it still happens but at least our government isn’t condoning, even advocating, it. At least we can all agree that trafficking is bad. Abortion needs a lot of help and publicity to get to trafficking status. I’m not saying don’t help end human trafficking. I’m saying don’t do that instead.

If you don’t even know how babies are killed in an abortion, you need to read this. It explains the different methods. In case you thought it was civilized murder. Don’t be like the neighbor who thought the plantation owner’s slaves were just a part of the family and happy to be such. Don’t be so afraid of hurting the slave owner’s feelings or making him feel guilty that you let people die.


I do care

28 Nov

It has been brought to my attention by a sweet friend that I am coming across as not compassionate towards those who have had abortions. This is unfortunate because I actually feel a lot of compassion for them. So, allow me to clear a few things up.

1. I know that it is a hard decision and that very few people take it lightly or make it casually. I never said it was easy but apparently it seems to some that I assumed it was. (I do, however, believe there are a lot of women who are uneducated and who do not truly realize what is happening inside their bodies at each stage). However, whether it is a hard decision or an easy one, it is still abortion. The fact that you agonized over it first doesn’t change whether it is right or wrong.

2. I know that it may be painful for someone who has chosen abortion to read the things I write here. There’s not much I can do about that. I do not wish to cause anyone pain. If you have had an abortion and are now struggling with that decision, please visit this site or contact Rachel’s Vineyard. I will have a future post discussing the potential effects of abortion on a woman and more resources for those who have aborted and now regret it and for those who are thinking of aborting but are not sure.

I have also been accused of voicing my “opinion” too often and too loudly (I’m not sure what the right amount would be…) but it’s not my opinion. It’s medical science that abortion kills a living human. I think we all agree that killing humans is wrong. So, if you want to believe that an unborn baby is not a human, then I guess you are allowed to do that. But THAT is an opinion that can’t be backed up by facts. As is common to say at the Capitol, you are entitled to your own opinion but you are not entitled to your own facts. I would ask you at what point you think an unborn baby does become a human?

It has also been assumed that I support the death penalty (I do not) and that I am against the morning-after pill (I am not).

Those are some of the reasons why I feel nervous and sick and sad when I write about abortion. Because I want to use soft, smooth words and make everyone feel good. But I want to say things that are true and direct more. My friend also indicated that I might not be wording my opinions in a very Christian-like way. I hope that’s not the case and is only her misunderstanding. I never claim for the things I write to be God-breathed or divinely inspired. I am a Christian and I do want to represent Christ in a way that pleases him even though I don’t always succeed. I think some people may feel that it would be Christ-like to be “nice” and to avoid saying something that might hurt people’s feelings. Trust me, I want to be nice and not offend anyone. I never write things with malice in my heart. I haven’t written anything that I know of to be mean or untrue (if you disagree, please let me know). The problem is, the truth will offend people because it’s harsh. And it is never loving to sugar-coat things and make them seem not so bad. That takes away people’s power to respond to the situation for what it is and forces them to respond to what the facade is.

It is more loving to speak the truth, not with the intention of hurting, but with the intention of helping people to see the truth. I cannot help it if it’s painful to look at.

I have come into this with a heavy heart because I know it will cause me to lose friends. Words are being put in my mouth and I have no doubt that I’ve been blocked from A LOT of people’s news feeds recently. That’s one reason I put it off so long. But I have finally submitted and I cannot ignore it any longer. It makes me feel sad but I have to do it.

Someone has told me that I changed their mind about abortion because they just never thought about it from all angles. It’s not that I changed their mind, it’s that I brought it up and got them to think about it for themselves. That person aided in an abortion in the past. The victory that comes from their mind being changed is that they will never aid in another one and they may also help change a mind or two. Often people just think that if it’s legal then it must not be so bad. Remember that slavery was legal. The things Hitler did were legal. Roe of Roe v. Wade herself is now working to overturn that decision because she now admits it was all based on a lie.

I do have friends who I know have had abortions. I bet I have some who I don’t know have had abortions. I love you either way. But I disagree with your decision and I will do what I can figure out to do to keep women from making the same decision in the future. A lot of that is going to mean being honest about the realities of abortion and about what really happens. I wish being honest and being polite could be the same thing.

The words we choose

27 Nov

Once, I was able to be at an ultrasound that a pregnant friend was having. The ultrasound showed some markers for Down’s Syndrome (I’m finding that this is incredibly common) so the doctor advised the new mom on her options. Here is a quote that I’m 99.44% certain is verbatim from that consultation.

“If you’d like to know for sure, we can do an amniocentesis (that’s a procedure where they take a sample from the amniotic fluid). With that procedure, there is the possibility that it could end the pregnancy.”

At this point, my friend indicated that wouldn’t be something she was interested in.

“It’s probably not necessary if you wouldn’t do anything differently either way.”

Look at the language this doctor used. Now, this is the same language my doctor used when I had my consultation (apparently everything is a possible indicator of Down’s). Both doctors are very nice people. Both may even be personally against abortion, I don’t know. I’m not criticizing them, but I am trying to draw attention to the way we approach things we know are wrong in today’s society. We use softer, smoother words to keep the harsh truth  from feeling so harsh. And if everyone talks about it like that, it really makes it seem not so bad.

When that doctor said “end the pregnancy,” he meant “kill the baby.” When he said “do anything differently,” he meant “have an abortion.” He wasn’t direct. The direct language is ugly. It’s not fun to say. The indirect language makes it easier.

This is a quote pulled directly from the fee section of a website of an abortion clinic in Norman, Okla (sorry there’s a weird box around it).

“Surgical Abortion $550
12 weeks pregnant or less as determined by our exam or ultrasound. The fee includes; Uterine aspiration and D & C, light sleep IV anesthesia, lab work, pregnancy test, pelvic exam or ultrasound, antibiotics, analgesics and a 1 or 2 week post-op exam with help for future birth control.”Uterine aspiration. If you look up that term, you will find definitions that call it a “method to remove uterine contents by vacuum.” Hmmm, uterine contents. Wouldn’t it be more direct to call it a method of sucking the baby out?

By the way, that website also offers these instructions:

“Do not bring infants or children. Do not bring a boyfriend or husband who is against your decision to have an abortion.”

Why can’t you bring infants or children? I am guessing it’s because it might make the other women at the clinic upset (and possibly change their minds) to see them. If it makes them upset, then doesn’t that tell you something is wrong? If the simple sight of a child makes a woman question her decision, then isn’t that a decision you would want her to rethink? Shouldn’t she be at peace with something like this? They also tell you not to bring the baby’s father unless he wants you to get an abortion. Excuse me, but why is this their business at all? Why are they interested in shutting the father out of the decision? They aren’t for men’s rights, apparently. And this is where the term “pro-choice” falls flat. These people aren’t pro-choice. They are pro-abortion, but pro-choice sounds nicer. It makes it seem empowering. It’s not empowering. These people are obviously trying to influence women into having abortions. Why? Because they get $550 a pop.  If they were pro-choice, they wouldn’t have been at the Capitol protesting the bill to require doctors to offer an ultrasound to every woman prior to her abortion. The bill didn’t require the women to get an ultrasound, just to be offered one. If they were truly pro-choice, wouldn’t they want the woman to have the opportunity to make as informed a decision as possible? Yeah, they would. They’re not pro-choice. That’s a misleading term.

I know some of you are disappointed with the blog lately because I haven’t tried to be funny. You are going to stop reading because it’s such a downer. That’s taking the easy way. That’s avoiding thinking. If it’s a downer, you need to ask yourself why it is. Everything in life isn’t about fun. You will live a wasted life if all you care about is fun. God did not put you on Earth to have fun. Christians are not called to be comfortable.

I encourage you to notice the language we use to talk about hard things as a society. We want to avoid thinking about how wrong things are because then we feel guilty about it. It’s easier to do that if we use indirect, soft language. Often, friends, the easy thing is not the right thing. I pray you are compelled to care more about doing right than doing easy.

“Rarely do we find men who willingly engage in hard, solid thinking. There is an almost universal quest for easy answers and half-baked solutions. Nothing pains some people more than having to think.”  –Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

To crib or not to crib

13 Nov

My mom, sister and I were talking yesterday and we have come to a revolutionary conclusion. Future moms, you will thank me for this: there is no need to buy a crib. Seriously. Get a pack n play with a bassinet and it could last until they go to a toddler bed. They’re way more versatile and if you have a scooting, flopping baby, they won’t bang their heads or stick their limbs through the rails. Also, I’m short and it’s nearly impossible for me to put LBJ down without waking him up because I have to lift him up and over the rails. And my niece got her knee stuck in the rails last time she was here and I had to yank it out. That was fun. You will probably still buy a crib so you can fulfill your fantasy of the perfect nursery. But one day you will think, “Dang, I should’ve listened to Heather and saved $500 (or $1500 depending on your level of extravagance). She’s so smart!” Or something like that.

On an unrelated to cribs but still related to babies note, I have some more things you can do to help battle abortion (besides reading and learning). Visit this site and donate! I have linked to the adoption share program page but there are other ways to help, so look around the site.

Next, if you are a member of a church, see about having the abolitionists come give a presentation. They are well-educated and can talk from a Biblical perspective about how and why churches can and should be more involved. This is a great way to light a lot of fires under a lot of butts at once!

That’s all I’ve got today!

Follow-up to “Hard Things”

11 Nov

Yesterday morning I went to an abolitionist conference in Norman. That’s what the group working to end abortion is calling themselves-abolitionists. They are drawing some surprisingly accurate parallels between the anti-slavery movement and the anti-abortion movement. They are not just pro-lifers. Abolitionists feel that the pro-life movement has been failing for forty years, or at least moving much too slowly. They are immediatists and they are Christians. Because they are Christians, they rightly conclude that they have NO CHOICE but to fight against abortion with all they have. And if you call yourself a Christian, then neither do you.

I’m still working on what my part in this is. I’m praying, thinking, absorbing and learning. But I can’t take too long. 3500 babies are killed every day in this country. I expect to offend people, but please remember that is not my goal. I want to love everyone but going along with lies and immorality isn’t loving.

I haven’t been exposed enough to say that I think the abolitionists are doing everything right. But they are doing something. Are you?

For now, here is a resource to help you learn about the abolitionists and what they are doing. There is also information at the middle of the page about how you can get started fighting abortion today. It appears that the best weapon is knowledge and information. So many people are misinformed about not only fetal development but also what actually occurs during an abortion. I encourage you to look online at pictures of abortions. It’s not fun. In fact, it’s totally disturbing and sickening. Which is the whole point. Maybe you need to see that to be motivated to action. Every person, pro-life or pro-abortion, should look at these pictures so that they can say they have made an informed decision. If you are pro-abortion and you don’t have the courage to look at those pictures, then you’re a coward. So, step one: Get educated.

Go do something, y’all.

Hard things

8 Nov

Abortion. That’s what this entire post is about. And it’s long. If you don’t want to think about it or hear the cold, hard truth, then you are probably the one who needs to read this the most.

God has been dealing with me on this issue for a long time. Years. I have been running away from it for a long time. Years. Sure, if someone asked, I would tell them what I thought. But I wouldn’t DO anything. Voting doesn’t count. But this conviction has been eating away at my heart and mind so long now that I can’t avoid it anymore: if I know babies are being killed and I do nothing but wrinkle my nose at it, then am I not guilty of murder? I feel like I am. And no offense, but I feel like you are, too.

Don’t kid yourselves, it is murder. I think a lot of people comfort themselves with Roe v. Wade. If it was really killing, the law wouldn’t allow it- right? Apparently not. I keep from going insane with rage by telling myself that when that case was decided, they didn’t have the technology we have now. Maybe they didn’t know that you could hear the baby’s heart beating at seven weeks. Seven weeks. For most women, it’s impossible to know you’re pregnant before three weeks. And if you’re not trying to get pregnant (therefore obsessively testing daily), you probably wouldn’t know for a few more weeks. So, by the time you find out, decide to kill it and have your appointment, the heartbeat will be audible. A couple more weeks and you could see your baby dancing around in there. I like to think that if this technology had been available then, Roe v. Wade would’ve had a different outcome. But it wasn’t and it didn’t. So why does that mean we can’t reexamine it in light of new evidence?

I have friends who haven’t thought this issue through all the way. A position I often hear is that they are against abortion most of the time but if the mom is a scumbag, the baby is better off because it would probably have a bad life anyway. Sometimes it sounds like this: “People shouldn’t use abortion as birth control but I think in certain situations, it’s okay.” This makes NO logical sense. Why shouldn’t women use it as birth control? If there’s nothing wrong with abortion because the baby isn’t a real person yet, then why isn’t it an acceptable form of birth control? And if it isn’t an acceptable form of birth control, it’s because you’re killing a baby. And if you’re killing a baby, then there should never be a circumstance where that’s okay. You don’t get to decide whether the baby would be better off never being born. You don’t know. What about already born babies who have hard lives? Maybe they have crappy parents or serious health problems. Maybe they should be put out of their misery? What about a six year old? What I’m getting at comes down to this question: At what point is it okay to end human life? 7 weeks in utero? Twenty weeks in utero? 39 weeks? Immediately after birth? 97 years old? No matter which point you pick, it is a human life (whether fully developed or not, no one can deny that it is living) and an abortion ends that life. So, at what point is it okay to do that?

Then there’s the rape/incest exception. Many who are against abortion still think there should be an exception for incest and rape (Personally, I think this category should just be referred to as “rape” because to say “incest” separately indicates that it would be consensual incest. Which means that people conceiving babies accidentally should not be allowed to abort, unless they conceived the baby with their brother. Those people should be allowed to. What?!) I think these are well-meaning people. I can’t imagine the pain of conceiving a baby from a rape. I have personal experiences that I’m not going to talk about but which do allow me to sympathize with these women. It would be awful. Lately some male political figures have failed to express their distaste for the rape exception with tact and empathy. Most men cannot know what it feels like to be overpowered and forced into sexual activity by someone bigger and stronger (unless they were molested). Some are able to be more sympathetic by nature, but many just have no clue what it might feel like. I think most women can imagine. So, pro-life men, you must tread this issue very carefully.

But, we have to remember that it’s not the baby’s fault and it shouldn’t be punished for the sins of its father. How can you say it’s wrong to kill an unborn baby unless it’s a rape baby? It’s still a baby. Could you face a grown person who was conceived in rape and tell them that they shouldn’t have been born? Many pro-lifers want to say “Let’s just leave the exception in to get the law passed. We’ll come back for the 1% but we need to save the ones we can now.” Well, that’s fine, but no one has ever come back for the 1%. They matter too!

A lot of people say “Well, I would never get an abortion but I can’t help it if other people do.” Is that what you would say if it was legal to kill already born babies? That you can’t help it?

Then there’s the woman’s body issue. Guess what- a baby isn’t the woman’s body. It’s a totally separate body living inside hers. It has its own blood type. I have heard a man say “I don’t want someone telling me what to do with my balls so I’m not going to tell a woman what to do with her parts.” This is so idiotic. No one wants to tell a woman what to do with her ovaries or uterus, either. Please, feel free to get a hysterectomy if you want. If babies lived inside men’s balls, that argument might make a little more sense.

Why do I never hear anything about fathers rights? The baby is his, too. It’s just a fact of life that the baby has to grow inside the woman but she didn’t make it alone. At what point should the father have a say?

I’m tired of hearing that pro-lifers don’t care about babies once they’re out of the womb. That’s BS. Just because a citizen may not agree with every welfare program the government can think up, doesn’t mean they aren’t doing their part to help the poor. Trust me, these are ones adopting the most children. You don’t have to believe big government is the way, the truth and the life to care about people. The government does a terrible job of it anyway. BUT, pro-lifers, we need to do more. That’s the journey I’m heading down now. I’m looking into and praying about what I can do. You need to do the same. Expect a follow-up post with information about what I find.

We have an issue in this country with people being sheep. With taking the path of least resistance. It’s easy to believe that if the law says something is okay, then it’s okay. Laws are made by people and not always the smartest people. People can be wrong. So why can’t laws be wrong?

I know good women who have had abortions. I don’t condemn them for doing so. I don’t think they’re bad. But I do think they made the wrong choice. It’s so much more common than most people think, especially men. Women don’t generally tell everyone they know when they have an abortion. Off the top of my head, I can think of three good friends whom I love dearly who have aborted babies. Babies that could’ve gone to loving homes. I’m not saying it would be easy. Obviously, it would be the opposite. I realize the challenges. I also realize accidental pregnancies are going to happen. It’s easy to say everyone should be responsible and not put themselves in these situations to begin with, but that won’t stop it from happening. But maybe we could make it easier to choose life. Maybe the adoption process could be easier. Maybe we can help people be more informed about abortion. I truly believe that many women who abort babies simply don’t understand what is really going on inside their bodies at the moment they abort. I don’t know. I don’t know what the answers are. But, I intend to try to find out.

This whole post is basically intended to make you think and to let me get these things off my chest. I’m guessing that if you don’t agree with me somewhat, you probably would have gotten offended and stopped reading long ago. Don’t bother arguing with me if you don’t. It won’t change my mind. This is a hard subject to think about. That’s why a lot of people push it to the back of their minds and refuse to think about it. But we can do hard things. Let’s

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