Weight Loss

I used to be fat. Now I’m just chubby. Everyone wants to know how I did it. So, here’s the story. It pretty much all began with a conversation with Spencer, who was, at the time, not my boyfriend but my undefined-relationship-person-that-I-really-liked. I believed that my weight was part of the reason this love fest was taking so long to get into full-swing. So, I told him about it. I told him that yes, I knew it was a problem that I needed to work on but it wasn’t going to magically go away, so it was kind of a take it or leave it deal. I explained that I would never be skinny so if that was the hold up, then he might as well move on. He was, obviously, shocked and somewhat nervously explained that yes, it was something he’d thought about but it wasn’t an issue. He also told me that he’d discussed it with one of our mutual friends. That is when I died of humiliation. Now, before anyone gets their panties in a wad, consider what guts that took for Spencer to be honest with me about such a sensitive subject. I had asked for him to just talk to me truthfully because I’d rather have an awkward conversation any day than be unsure. And he did. So, good for him.

I went home and turned on the tv to see a couple from The Biggest Loser on the Mike Huckabee show talking about how you just have to get started and quit making excuses. I mean, this is what happened IMMEDIATELY when I got home.  Then I started crying. Then I called my mom (because my mom, my sister and Spencer are pretty much the only people I will cry in front of) and she said I should start walking, quit drinking pop and avoid fried foods and sweets for a month. I don’t know when my mom became a personal trainer but I took her advice and went for a walk that night. I tried to make it a run but I almost passed out after a block. When I got back in the house, I prayed. Hard. I think I was crying again. I knew that I’d spent 25 years never being in shape and that I wasn’t ever going to get myself in shape. So, I pretty much asked God to do everything for me. I asked Him to give me the motivation, to give me the strength, to give me a good attitude and to make me lose weight. And I believed He would. So, He did.

Soon, my friend Morgan invited me to start going to the gym with her on Tuesday and Thursday mornings. This was key because I would never go to a gym alone. I didn’t know what to do there. I’d never been athletic and didn’t know how to use any machines. Also, I’m a perfectionist and it was always easier to not workout than to workout but know that I wasn’t the best at it. So, somehow, I dug up the confidence to go with Morgan. Then, I ordered Jillian Michael’s book, Master Your Metabolism. I didn’t read or follow the whole thing (conciously working on not having to be all-or-nothing perfect). But, I took four important lessons from that book.

 1. Eat protein in the morning. Every morning. And do it before your workout. Otherwise, your body is in starvation mode and will burn lean muscle first.  2. Eat every four hours. 3. Don’t eat carbs after 7p.m. and don’t eat anything after 9p.m. 4. For real weight loss, workout at least 4 hours/week. Weight train to build muscle that burns fat.

So, that’s pretty much what I did. Over a year’s time, I lost right at about 35lbs. I went from a size 18 to a size 12 (sometimes a 10!). I am under no illusions and know that I still have weight to lose. It doesn’t seem so urgent now, though. I take my time and try different workouts and foods. I have a Coke now and then. But I know what it takes and I won’t go back. I think the important thing to realize here is that I was honest with myself, I trusted in God, and I was satisfied with small victories. Take baby steps if you really want to change.  I didn’t lose weight at first, but after a couple months, it started to just fall off.

Images on the left are befores and those on the right are afters

The first pic was taken in Nov. ’08 before I did anything. The second was in Nov. ’09 after about 7 months of trying. I like hunting pics because it tells me what time of year it was. The third pic was taken over Memorial Weekend last year (2009) about a month after the infamous conversation with Spencer. The fourth one was taken this past fourth of July (2010). That’s my fit friend, Tiff in the pic with me.

Edited to add: This is an update, three years later. I am fat again! Crap! In the last three years, I got married and had a baby who is now a year old. I have always been scared to get pregnant because ya know, you have to gain weight and I knew I wouldn’t be the type to just easily lose it again. What I had not considered was the weight I always gain when starting or stopping birth control so that has caused some issues too. I am currently between 10-15lbs below my beginning weight in 2009 and about 20lbs over where I want to be. I’m struggling to find motivation because I feel like as soon as I get into shape, it will be time to have another baby and then I’m back to square one (yes, I did continue to work out during my pregnancy and about a month after Jack was born but somewhere in the sleeplessness and stress, I gave it up). So, I’ll keep ya posted.


11 Responses to “Weight Loss”

  1. Laurie September 14, 2010 at 2:47 pm #

    I’m so proud of you. Luv Ya!

  2. Andie September 14, 2010 at 3:24 pm #

    Wow…that is amazing how different you look! Great job! 🙂

  3. Aunt Pam September 14, 2010 at 8:44 pm #

    I have always thought you are beautiful inside and out. I guess I never thought about your size…keep up the good work…

  4. heatherok September 15, 2010 at 12:28 pm #

    Thanks, Pam! You are so sweet!

  5. Aunt Sandi September 17, 2010 at 11:46 am #

    I’m with Pam…I’ve only had the pleasure of meeting you once…I knew right away you were a keeper! You are as comfortable as an old pair of shoes…oh and that is a huge compliment!

  6. Jenny Meigs October 13, 2010 at 1:08 pm #

    You ARE as comfortable as an old pair of shoes. Good way to describe you! Weight issues suck and dealing with it makes me cry too!!! I’m sooo proud of you Heather.

  7. Lauren October 25, 2011 at 10:07 pm #

    Dude! You’re inspiring! I’m working on getting in shape right now. It’s haaaaaaaaaard. I signed up for a 5K in 4 weeks and I hope and pray I don’t collapse/vomit on everything after 50 yards.

    • Heather @ CrawdadsInMySink October 26, 2011 at 8:43 am #

      Thanks! I’m thinking of becoming a motivational speaker. I just have to find some shoulder pads. It is really hard to get into shape! I did my first 5K last year in about 37 minutes I think. I take the slow and steady approach. Just make sure to challenge yourself really hard for the next few weeks and then lay off for a couple days right before so you can rest up. I look forward to seeing what you think of it! I thought maybe I’d get all into racing and competing against my own times but no, not really. LOL I have to constantly change what I’m doing to workout or I get bored. I love hearing about other people’s fitness journeys.

  8. Hannah Gregory Fryer March 1, 2012 at 2:47 pm #

    I feel like I’m slow to see this, but thanks so much for sharing! I’m trying my hand at fitness for the first time… since fourth grade, and it’s nice to hear your success story. I’m trying to stay motivated, (just completed my first 5K, albeit very slowly), but sometimes it’s a struggle. Anyway, I appreciate your sharing!

    • Heather @ CrawdadsInMySink March 1, 2012 at 10:05 pm #

      It is quite an adventure when you are starting as an adult. You can do it and I can’t wait to see the results of your hard work!

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